tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7980259522701574842.post1861741777522947216..comments2024-01-22T10:00:14.762-05:00Comments on Not Another Wave: From Carl The Open-minded Chauvinist: Double StandardsEricahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15249287420418816844noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7980259522701574842.post-37554521833786959102009-10-29T16:25:30.321-04:002009-10-29T16:25:30.321-04:00Perhaps you should consider yourself a "gende...Perhaps you should consider yourself a "gender egalitarian."Rachel Lesliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13060358204701737418noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7980259522701574842.post-92046304962460515702009-10-28T10:02:43.543-04:002009-10-28T10:02:43.543-04:00Something that used to come up in my undergraduate...Something that used to come up in my undergraduate classes (women's studies and cultural studies) that we might want to be aware of- or even discuss in terms of its implications for this post- is the way in which we tend to go all-or-nothing about things like oppression. When we start recognizing how gender binaries and stereotypes hurt everyone, we sometimes forget that not everyone is Ericahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15249287420418816844noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7980259522701574842.post-79417666826422391112009-10-28T00:42:51.306-04:002009-10-28T00:42:51.306-04:00I agree that men are kind of getting the short end...I agree that men are kind of getting the short end of the stick these days. We seem to be living in an Era where all males are considered perverse, amoral sex fiends. Then there's the fact that breast cancer research gets a heck of a lot more funding than prostate cancer research.<br /><br />Recently a man was arrested for being naked in his own home because, unbeknownst to him, a woman and Bethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16251807792377217468noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7980259522701574842.post-83612283288924935752009-10-27T23:54:20.098-04:002009-10-27T23:54:20.098-04:00I am Anonymous #2.
@Emily.
Wow. I was actually ...I am Anonymous #2.<br /><br />@Emily.<br /><br />Wow. I was actually asking a simple-minded question - I wasn't meaning anything by it. Just an honest question. I am too simple to analyze the analysis of anything. :]<br /><br />I also do believe that there is truth to every stereotype, that is why they exist. However, I have been fortunate that most of my acquaintances rarely do fit Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7980259522701574842.post-78796185180600582562009-10-27T21:49:07.204-04:002009-10-27T21:49:07.204-04:00Ugh, Blogger just deleted my comment- yuck! Lemme ...Ugh, Blogger just deleted my comment- yuck! Lemme try to reproduce it.<br /><br />First: yay for comments and discussion!<br /><br />Second: Another thing I see as contributing to the kinds of pressures and expectations that Carl discusses here is the way the second-wave feminist movement of the 1970s wound up being portrayed and remembered in popular memory. A lot of what tends to memorialize Ericahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15249287420418816844noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7980259522701574842.post-33643068112659840642009-10-27T21:25:25.098-04:002009-10-27T21:25:25.098-04:00NessaAnn,
I love all the points you bring up - y...NessaAnn, <br /><br />I love all the points you bring up - your perspective is really interesting and insightful. I particularly enjoy the point you make about how in the context of a traditional family structure, a man might meet a lot of his social needs during the day, while a woman might need to meet those social needs in the evenings. I'd never thought of that before.<br /><br />As a Emilyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13794894633747852280noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7980259522701574842.post-60171890267351219372009-10-27T19:56:34.523-04:002009-10-27T19:56:34.523-04:00Hello, Carl!
Speaking as a happily married person...Hello, Carl!<br /><br />Speaking as a happily married person with quite a number of happily married friends, I just don't see this being the case in the healthy marriages with which I am familiar. Your sentiments are the stereotype, often used in humor, but I just don't see that being the case. <br /><br />First, I believe that a man and wife should "cleave" to one another. NessaAnnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08235410716507259118noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7980259522701574842.post-35634289088439913102009-10-27T19:02:37.386-04:002009-10-27T19:02:37.386-04:00One more thought: Could it be that since men have...One more thought: Could it be that since men have simpler minds (not less intelligent), women are slighty jealous?<br /><br />Your example about sex in marriage is an excellent example.<br /><br />I don't know if this is true, but as a man, all I really need sometimes is a good meal and I'm happy. It seems that women might need a little more....Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7980259522701574842.post-78443169979153167632009-10-27T18:55:53.591-04:002009-10-27T18:55:53.591-04:00I am glad I have a wife who will let me play hedge...I am glad I have a wife who will let me play <a href="http://www.hedgewars.org" rel="nofollow">hedgewars</a> with my friends. <br /><br />We have determined that time with our own gender is very important (and contructive) for a marriage, in addition to the activities we do together. <br /><br />I am glad (and probably very blessed) that I don't have to feel too bad of a person when I wish Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com